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How can you help your kids adjust to divorce?

If you're going through a divorce, it's very likely that your children are on your mind. You want to make sure they're supported and healthy throughout the divorce process, even though there are so many changes taking place.

There are a variety of techniques you can use to help your children adjust to changes in your life. To start with, follow these tips:

Adoption: Know why fostering matters

You and your spouse have been considering adoption, but you're not sure where to begin. You know you want to adopt domestically, and you are fairly certain you want a younger child. The good news is that you have many options open to you.

There are thousands of children in the United States who live in foster care and who are looking for adoptive parents. Across the country, there are approximately 100,000 teens and children looking for loving homes. As someone seeking to adopt, you should consider both fostering and adopting from foster care.

Drug and alcohol abuse can impact child custody in California

There are many reasons why couples decide to divorce. Issues with addiction, including drugs and alcohol, pornography and gambling issues, are a major contributing factor to the decline of marriages. When one spouse becomes addicted or starts engaging in unsafe behavior, it can put the whole family at risk.

In some cases, financial issues arise. One spouse may divert household funds to support the addiction. Other times, the strong emotions related to addiction can cause a spouse to lash out, becoming physically or emotionally violent. Regardless of how addiction has impacted your marriage, if you're considering divorce, you likely want to know how substance abuse can impact the child custody proceedings.

Couples therapists: We won't tell you to get a divorce, usually

You are thinking about getting a divorce, but you want to try therapy first. What you really want to know is if your therapist will be honest. Will he or she tell you or your spouse if your marriage really can't be saved? Will the therapist give you a way to get out, or will he or she suggest you stick together no matter what?

Couples' therapists are not there to tell you what to do, and instead allow you to come to your own conclusions. The therapists are there to give very little directives, because it needs to be your decision when you decide if you want a divorce or not. Therapists don't just do this with clients struggling with their marriages; they tend not to give a direct piece of advice to anyone over any subject.

Victims of violence can seek a protective order

If you're a victim of domestic violence, one of the things you may want to know is what kind of legal protections there are for you. The most common protection is a protective order. This is an order that requires the accused abuser to stay away from you, your home, your school and your workplace.

This order also makes it clear that the individual is not to have contact with you in any way. You can ask for a protective order whenever you want one. If the abuser violates the terms of the order, he or she can be arrested and taken to jail. Violating a protective order is contempt of court and will be charged as a misdemeanor.

Mediation helps you plan for your child's future

As a parent, you want to spend as much time with your child as you can. With an impending divorce, you know that the dynamic of your relationship is going to change. You want to do everything you can to prevent your child from feeling like you don't love or care about him or her. You want to make sure you get enough time together.

Despite your eagerness to be in your child's life, your spouse has been talking about seeking primary custody. You believe that you offer better stability and want to have a dual-custody situation. You think that your child deserves to see both parents, even if you and your spouse no longer get along.

Divorcing young: What to expect

Sometimes, it's hard to be a young adult. You may struggle with the early days of your career or start a family and learn what it means to face true exhaustion. Some people get married, and others decide that their marriages aren't right for them.

There are many misconceptions about getting divorced as a young person. The younger divorcees could face unfair scrutiny from older adults, even though the reality is that most divorces started at an early stage have less to argue over. That means they cost less and cause less damage to your life on the whole, legally speaking.

Abandoning the home: What you need to know about divorce

Coming from Mexico, you're probably familiar with what happens when people abandon their homes and family for a divorce. Under Mexican law, a man who leaves his wife may be liable for her income for the rest of her life, even though he no longer wants to stay married.

While that does provide a spouse with everything she needs to continue living her current lifestyle, that isn't how the laws work in America. In California, which is a no-fault divorce state, alimony isn't guaranteed. If someone decides to file for a divorce, that person many not end up paying his or her spouse anything.

2 adoption facts you need to know

Adoption has been on your mind since you witnessed the last adoption event in your area. You met children who had been orphaned at a fundraiser. Some were in foster homes, and others were waiting in the care of the Department of Social Services.

No matter what the cost and how long it takes, you want to move forward with an adoption to get a child out of the system. What should you do, and what can you expect? Here are a few things to keep in mind.

How do you obtain guardianship of a child?

When there's a child you want to take guardianship of, it's not as easy as saying you want to do that and going to court. On top of the court paperwork, you'll need to obtain the parents' consent for you to take over guardianship. If the parents are deceased and you've been left as a guardian, that's a different situation that is addressed directly at the time of the parents' passing.

In the case that the parents are still alive but you want to take over guardianship, you need to petition the court. From there, you may need to be interviewed. The child may have to be interviewed as well, depending on his or her age. Additionally, the parents may be requested to appear in court for an interview if they're available to do so. Others who may have an interest in what happens to the children, like their aunts, uncles or cousins, may also be interviewed to determine if you're the best person for the job.