By the time California spouses ultimately call to set up an appointment with a divorce attorney, they've often pulled out all the stops to try to save their marriage. Many have been hesitant to pull the plug on their marriage out of fear that negotiating a settlement with their ex will easily become a long, drawn-out courtroom battle. Those who envision this happening with them often find mediation to be a welcome alternative to a litigated divorce.
It's probably impossible to pinpoint an exact reason for every couple's divorce. However, there are three common reasons that divorce attorneys hear from their clients. They are adultery, addiction and abuse.
If you and your spouse have kids, own a home or share other assets, then it's likely that settling your divorce isn't going to go as smoothly as you may hope it would. If you and your ex are having trouble reaching a compromise, then mediation may be an ideal way for you to resolve your differences without having to spend a lot of time or fork out a lot of money litigating personal matters in a courtroom.
When couples fight constantly about anything and everything, it could be a sign that something is wrong. However, the constant fighting isn't necessarily a signal that divorce is imminent. According to psychologists, it's when another issue is introduced to the relationship that couples may begin to tumble down the slippery slope to divorce.
A new law having to do with how pets are handled in a divorce went into effect in California on Jan. 1. Judges are now allowed to consider what's in the best interest of a pet and to approve shared custody plans for them if it's deemed appropriate. Prior to the law going into effect, domestic animals were seen as marital property that needed to be divided up just like a house, car or any assets when a couple divorced.
Personalities can clash and life events can happen that make all of us vulnerable to getting divorced. A look at census data shows that some people are more are likely to split up depending on what field they work in.
There are a variety of reasons why spouses need to pay alimony. For one, it could be the law that you or your spouse must pay alimony in your divorce case -- particularly if you've been married for an extended period of time and one spouse's capacity to earn an income is particularly less than the other's. Beyond the law, however, there's an important logic behind alimony laws.
Imagine your husband or wife has a shopping addiction and last year he or she put an incredible $40,000 of debt on a personal credit card. The problem is, you're now getting a divorce and realizing that even though the card was in your spouse's name, that debt will likely be considered a part of the marital estate. As such, you could be shouldering some of that debt burden after the divorce has finalized.
Whether you're the jealous spouse or the victim of a jealous spouse, you probably don't feel entirely in control of the situation. Jealousy tends to be a knee-jerk, automatic and uncontrollable reaction. The first time a loved one erupts in a jealous fit of rage, it might be flattering to think that someone loves you so much. However, when it becomes a repeated and regular pattern, the spouse on the other end of the jealousy could eventually decide to call it quits.
Whether you're the payer or the receiver of alimony, it's important to keep your documents organized and readily available in case an issue ever develops. Perhaps, for example, your spouse stops paying you alimony or doesn't pay the full amount you're owed -- your documents will help to prove that this has occurred. Alternatively, maybe you've been paying your alimony each month but the receiving spouse accuses you of not fulfilling your monthly obligations. Here, your documents will offer the proof to show you've adhered to your court orders.