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Debts and your divorce: What you need to know

Imagine your husband or wife has a shopping addiction and last year he or she put an incredible $40,000 of debt on a personal credit card. The problem is, you're now getting a divorce and realizing that even though the card was in your spouse's name, that debt will likely be considered a part of the marital estate. As such, you could be shouldering some of that debt burden after the divorce has finalized.

Was your divorce caused by jealousy?

Whether you're the jealous spouse or the victim of a jealous spouse, you probably don't feel entirely in control of the situation. Jealousy tends to be a knee-jerk, automatic and uncontrollable reaction. The first time a loved one erupts in a jealous fit of rage, it might be flattering to think that someone loves you so much. However, when it becomes a repeated and regular pattern, the spouse on the other end of the jealousy could eventually decide to call it quits.

What alimony documents should alimony payers keep?

Whether you're the payer or the receiver of alimony, it's important to keep your documents organized and readily available in case an issue ever develops. Perhaps, for example, your spouse stops paying you alimony or doesn't pay the full amount you're owed -- your documents will help to prove that this has occurred. Alternatively, maybe you've been paying your alimony each month but the receiving spouse accuses you of not fulfilling your monthly obligations. Here, your documents will offer the proof to show you've adhered to your court orders.

Was infidelity the cause of your divorce?

When two people agree to get married, the general understanding is that they will remain faithful to one another in mind, body and emotions. This means, in very simple terms, no extramarital "affairs." The term "affairs" here is put in quotation marks because, although it generally refers to the concept of infidelity and adultery in a marriage, to some people, being unfaithful means very different things.

Parents: You’re not the only ones suffering in your divorce

Some parents view their divorces like they're experiencing a "train wreck," and they're the conductors at the center of it all. The stress and emotional mayhem that ensues when parents don't find their emotional centers during their marital breakups can be difficult to manage. It can also cause them to forget that other people -- namely, their children –- are suffering as a result of the divorce just as much, if not more. However, they don't have the most articulate ways of expressing their emotions.

Track down your spouse's hidden money during your divorce

Imagine your spouse has been acting strange and shifty the last several months while complaining about not having enough money to pay the bills. Then, your spouse surprises you by filing for divorce. As devastated as you were by the news, you have accepted it as the only way to resolve your marital differences.

What are the negatives of a prenuptial agreement?

A prenuptial agreement can be helpful to spouses who later decide to get a divorce. While most people focus on the potential positives of such an agreement, however, spouses need to consider the potential disadvantages as well before they make the decision to draft and execute their prenups.

Was your divorce triggered by a communication breakdown?

Sitting at the dining room table across from your spouse shouldn't be a silent affair unless that's the kind of relationship both of you want. While some spouses may be content with silence, most relationships require meaningful and honest conversations to flourish. Through honest and heartfelt communication, spouses learn about one another's concerns and how they can best fulfill each other's needs in the relationship. When this kind of communication can't be achieved, it could lead to the end of the marriage.

When addiction leads to divorce

Just because one spouse is struggling with an addiction problem doesn't mean that it will lead to the destruction of the marriage. However, addiction -- be it to drugs, alcohol, pills or something else -- does cause approximately 7.3 percent of divorces in the United Sates. If you're struggling with a spouse who has an addiction problem, you may be considering divorce, but it won't be an easy decision.