When divorce becomes a potential part of your future, you may struggle to decide what is best for you and your family. Whether you and your spouse simply don't get along anymore or there has been some kind of dramatic break in the trust between you, possibly related to infidelity, it can feel impossible to make a decision about whether walking away or fighting for your marriage is the better option.
The emotional intensity that comes with evaluating a marital relationship can make it more difficult to make a rational and realistic decision. The people who love you the most may struggle to give you good advice, as they may worry about supporting your decision to divorce, only to have you change your mind.
There is also the risk that anyone you speak to about your intentions will divulge them to your spouse before you make up your mind. Talking with an attorney could be a wise decision if you feel uncertain about divorce and how it will impact you.
What you say to a lawyer remains confidential
One of the easiest reasons why working with an attorney to discuss your feelings about divorce is a good decision is that an attorney cannot disclose the information you share. Attorney-client privilege protects the ruminations on your relationship and your spouse from becoming public knowledge.
When you share your thoughts with your family or friends, there will always be the risk of them discussing your intentions or ideas with others. That could eventually complicate your situation instead of making it better.
An attorney can help you figure out what to expect
Although thousands of couples divorce in California every year, the outcome of each divorce is unique. That makes it hard for the average person to anticipate what will happen to their family and their finances in divorce. When you sit down and talk with an attorney, they can give you their best ideas about the likely outcome given your family's current situation, from spousal support to child custody.
An attorney can help you prepare for divorce
One of the biggest mistakes people make is going in blind and becoming aggressive due to unrealistic expectations. Not only can an attorney help you understand more realistic and reasonable outcomes, but they can also help you prepare for a successful divorce filing.
From guiding you in gathering the necessary records and documentation to helping you strategize for issues like a fair division in custody, an attorney can do a lot to make the process of ending your marriage easier for everyone. Even if you don't decide to get divorced, an attorney can still offer insight and advice that can help you make better decisions in the future.