Children of recently divorced parents might find the holiday challenging, especially if this is the first holiday season since the divorce. As a parent, you will have to help your children work through a myriad of feelings and concerns that come with this situation. There are several things that kids might worry about.
One of the most obvious issues that the children might be concerned about is how their time will be split up on the major holidays. For families that celebrate Christmas, the children might want to know whether they will get to see both parents that day. It is a good idea to let the children know the schedule for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day ahead of time, so they know what to expect. Younger children might not understand what’s going on so be prepared to work with them on a day-by-day basis on what they will do that day.
Another concern that they might have is gifting. In the past, you and your ex might have gotten them gifts to give to teachers, family members and friends. You and your ex should decide how this will happen this year. Explaining this to the children can help them to ensure they have what they need for everyone.
Make sure that you encourage your child to have open communication about their feelings. If they want to speak to their other parent, let them. The goal of your parenting plan is to raise healthy, happy and thriving children. When you have to go around your ex, such as during custody exchange times, remain respectful and remember that your children are watching.