As a parent, you want to spend as much time with your child as you can. With an impending divorce, you know that the dynamic of your relationship is going to change. You want to do everything you can to prevent your child from feeling like you don’t love or care about him or her. You want to make sure you get enough time together.
Despite your eagerness to be in your child’s life, your spouse has been talking about seeking primary custody. You believe that you offer better stability and want to have a dual-custody situation. You think that your child deserves to see both parents, even if you and your spouse no longer get along.
To resolve situations like this, it’s sometimes a good idea to go to mediation sessions. Third-party mediators can give you information on the pertinent laws, so you can make a decision on the best arrangements for your child.
The mediator has a few goals. The first is to help both you and your spouse make a decision in the best interests of your child. The next is to help you create a plan that gives you and your spouse time with your child. Finally, the mediator wants to make sure you and your spouse can learn ways to handle any resentment or anger you have toward each other.
Through mediation, you and your spouse can come up with a child custody plan that works for you. You’ll also learn to negotiate and speak to each other respectfully, so you can negotiate instead of arguing when differences lead to conflict.
Source: California Courts, “Custody Mediation,” accessed March 21, 2018