As a father, you feel that you may have less of a chance at sole or primary custody than the mother of your children. You feel you may even struggle to have shared custody that is equal or close to it. While fathers shouldn't have a harder time than mothers obtaining custody, there are some things you can do to make your efforts known.
Firstly, if you are required to pay support, make sure you always do so on time. If you have a problem making a payment, reach out to your attorney and make sure you file for a modification, so you can afford to live and pay for your child's needs. If your arrangement is only informal, make sure you keep records of how much you pay and when.
Another thing you can do is to show how strong your relationship is with your child. The courts want to see children happy. If you have a strong relationship in support of your child, you're likely to get more time with your child than if you have little to no relationship.
Of course, nothing will work without a plan. Know what you want, and make sure that you make it clear. If you want to share custody, explain this and show why you want it. Be able to explain your child's accommodations in your home and be familiar with your child's activities, wants and needs.
Your attorney can help you prepare a solid case for child custody before you go to court. With evidence and support for your requests, you'll have a better chance of getting the custody arrangements you want.
Source: The Spruce, "10 Child Custody Tips for Fathers," Debrina Washington, accessed Jan. 19, 2018