Summer is nearly here, and that means your kids won’t have to head to school. Your goal is to make this summer exciting and engaging for your kids, especially since your recent divorce. You’re not the primary custodian, so this time is especially important to you. You want your kids to know you love and care about them.
How can you make summer satisfying for yourself and your kids when it comes to custody arrangements? Here are a few tips to remember.
1. Prepare your kids for your summer together
The first step before your kids come to stay with you in the summer is to prepare them. Talk to them about what they want to do and what you expect from them. Talk about behaviors you expect and even how often they can see their friends or get to go places they want to see. If you talk about expectations before summer arrives, everyone will be happier.
2. Choose activities you can participate in together
Some parents make the mistake of planning lots of activities that actually promote individuality. For example, if you go to a theme park, your kids might be interacting more with characters and rides than with you. Opt for bonding experiences, like going camping or building something together, at least some of the time.
3. Make future plans
When summer is ending, remember that this can be a time of grief for some. Talk to your children about the things you did together and what you can plan for next year. Intentionally addressing the time apart may help ease the transition.
These are a few tips to keep in mind this summer. If you have concerns about your custody arrangements, your attorney can help you reach out to the court.
Source: National Center for Fathering, “Create a Satisfying Summer with the Kids,” accessed May 26, 2017